During the first few months of our marriage, me and my husband had romanced less and fought enough to understand each other.The controversies were of trivial nature though.
We had an arranged marriage.So, some of the reasons to fight evolved as side-effects of living together. His unpunctuality and my disciplined approach ;his Mr.Know-it-all attitude combined with my bossy demeanor ; his ability to irk me due to my short tempered character- the list of mismatches is quite long. Both of us expected the other one to adjust first and thus invited a lot of meaningless trouble in the marriage.
The arguments took a serious turn when we started disrespecting each other’s values, feelings and priorities.We made criticised each other harshly for simple mistakes without knowing much what the other person was going through at that point.In short, neither of us missed a chance to hurt each other terribly with our insensible remarks.
However after a certain amount of time, we realised the bad impact such behaviour was casting in our relationship.We took our time to figure out the controversial areas which shouldn’t be allowed in a healthy discussion.It became an unwritten rule in our marriage to not talk about anything which had the ability to create a controversy amongst us.