Indian weddings! The word ‘wedding’ itself brings a smile on everyone’s face. When it comes to India, then weddings are never a one-day event.
Thanks to the Indian entertainment industry, Indian weddings are a grand affair these days. Before reciting the wedding mantras, bride and groom celebrate at least 3-4 days of pre-wedding ceremonies. Everyone is ready to go one step ahead and make their wedding day a talked-about event.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with it. This occasion comes only once in life (for most of the people). So, it’s a very natural wish for the couple-to-be to make their D-day an unforgettable affair. And, believe me it indeed turns into one such memorable day for them – mostly because of their wedding arrangements and rest due to some special contributions which you will read later in this post.
Generally, Indian weddings reflect a big social event. You will see everyone in happy mood, dressed in their best outfits & best behaviour. Everything looks so bright and beautiful. Does it look like a happy family gathering scene straight out of Sooraj Barjatya movie set? Do I sound too good to be true ?
Certainly……..I mean certainly not !
As long as your interest lies only in enjoying the movie, then it doesn’t matter whatever happened behind the scenes.
But, if you are someone who has an equally nosy nature like me, then your eyes will discover below 5 favourite discussion topics in Indian weddings :
1. Features of the bride :
The bride is__________ . Fill in the blank with any of these words – dark complexioned/thin/fat/short/tall/having short hair.
This discussion topic finds the topmost position in Indian weddings amongst the guests. We have taken the matter of women empowerment so seriously that the groom’s features don’t matter to us much. So what if he is an equally dark-complexioned person with low-fat or full-fat appearance. He is still a very handsome guy and will surely touch all heights of life with his almost bald head and abbreviated figure.
2. ‘No’ to dowry :
‘You know nobody takes dowry these days. Still, are you giving anything to your daughter?’ this is the most civilised inquiry one does (with a smile) in Indian weddings. Everyone knows that giving and receiving dowry is an evil practise in today’s date. So, everyone is strictly against dowry. That’s why, nobody demands dowry in their son’s wedding.
But parents want to ‘gift’ their daughters as much as possible in weddings, sometimes go out of their way. They think it’s much better to reply the above question with some ‘materialistic’ words rather than standing with a blank face. No wonder daughters are still liabilities in this country.
3. Give and take offer :
‘Blessings only in presence, not present’ is seen in very few wedding cards where the family members politely refuse wedding presents from the invitees. Rest of the wedding invites don’t contain this sentence or anything of similar stature. Without mentioning this special line, the act of giving gifts becomes a pre-requisite to attend the wedding. And, what do we do when we receive gifts ? Either we lock them in our cupboards for distant future use or gift them in another wedding.
4. Giveaways :
There is a strange custom of giving new clothes to the close relatives in Indian weddings. In the period of inflation where arranging a wedding and shopping for the family itself is a big challenge, distributing clothes to others in this scenario looks illogical. I don’t know who started this tradition, but it’s there in our system since long time. Everyone, who attends a wedding, anyway buys a new dress or wears a nice dress. So, why is there any need of giving away clothes ?
These giveaways only arise arguments and misunderstandings between the giver and receiver. However, it also contributes in spicing up the discussions during the tea-time snacks.
5. Food critics :
No matter how much expensive and tasty the food is, it is always hard to satisfy the ardent critics. Guests feel it as their birth right to criticise the food in Indian weddings. Everybody seem to have their own set of complaints about food.
In this country, a large section of population is under Below Poverty Line (BPL). Beggars and hungry children waiting for some leftover food outside a wedding/funeral or any celebration venue is a very common scene. I don’t understand how people in such country even dare to complain about such vast variety of dishes displayed before them in weddings.
So, you see, arranging a wedding and marrying in India is not an easy job. As a matter of fact, without the above discussion topics, Indian weddings rather feel incomplete. Hope I still receive wedding invites after this post 😉
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