Marital rape : criminalising this act may destabilise the institution of marriage apart from being an easy tool for harassing the husbands
We were in the middle of our dinner when the above news flashed in the TV screen.
Shop now the novel ‘A Thousand Splendid Suns’ from Amazon worth INR 206.97. Why is the novel a worth read? Find out here : 7 reasons to grab the novel ‘A Thousand Splendid Suns’
For past few days, all news channels in India were busy in capturing the footage of violence that spread in Punjab and Haryana.
A godman (out of so many in this country) named Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh Insan was convicted of raping his two women followers and subsequently sentenced for 20 years of imprisonment.
His devoted (and definitely blind I guess) followers couldn’t agree with this judgement. Killing innocent people and destroying properties in protest appeared much sensible to them rather showing sympathy and support towards the rape victims.
In the midst of all these chaos, when a less discussed topic ‘marital rape’ appeared in the TV screen, I was a bit surprised. Both me and my husband lifted our eyes from our dinner plates and paid some attention to the news.
The news reader read out this decision of the Central Government of India. The government conveyed this statement in it’s affidavit to the Delhi High Court. One gentleman mocked if women kept filing cases against marital rape, then 90% of the husbands in this country would be behind the bars.
The channel went one step further and showed an interview of a woman. She accused her husband of marital rape and was fighting against him in court since a long time.
It was a ‘blink and miss’ kind of news. Just like the Government, the news channel also didn’t bother much to waste time on this matter. It continued with the current hot topic- Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh Insan.
Honestly speaking, I salute this decision of the Central Government. I know, women reading this post at this moment will frown.
If filing cases solved a particular crime, then India would have been a crime-free nation long back. Indian constitution has many laws that state strict punishment for crimes such as- corruption, theft, murder, domestic violence, cyber crimes and last but not the least, rape (slightly touching marital rape too). Still, crimes happen in this country. Everyday news channels and newspapers report the same old crimes in a fresh package.
Does it make any sense to frame stringent laws for marital rape in such situation ? I think we should not stress much to put marital rape as a serious criminal offence in law books. That’s because, husbands aren’t completely guilty of marital rape.
Parents in our society, never educate a son about the ways that would make him a good husband in future. Having a male gender, good degree from school or college and handsome salary in job gives him the label of a good husband material.
He has always seen his mother playing the role of an obedient wife throughout her life. Naturally, he expects the same attitude from his wife. A daughter-in-law/wife in India should be an ideal blend of intelligence & beauty, with traditional values and most importantly an epitome of patience & endurance. No matter what she is going through in her life, mind, body and bedroom, she should always project a smiling face without any complaints. She is not supposed to elevate her voice in family against her husband for such ‘small’ issue.
Of course, a man too exercises patience and control by fulfilling the needs of his family.He does a great favour. In return of his generosity, his wife needs to satisfy his male ego and physical needs whenever he demands it. It’s an unspoken rule in a marriage.
Nobody cares that physical and emotional needs of a woman are slightly different from a man. Continual objection against sex from the woman makes her married life vulnerable. It’s a problem with deep roots in the society, which most of us deny to accept.
That’s why, marital rape has existed in this country since ages and will prevail in years to come. Then what is the use of framing another law to prevent marital rape?
And, do I achieve anything to blabber so much ? It will only prove that I am stupid and an unnecessarily emotional woman.
Hence, I thought I should continue with my dinner and follow the news of Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh Insan at that moment.